Adoption is not for me.

Is this you? You think adoption is great--it’s just not for you.


In my last post I mentioned responding to God’s call to help orphans. I have had friends and family very openly share with me over the years that there is no way they could love an adoptive child as much as they love their biological children. I don’t question their sincerity but, I wonder if it’s true.


I remember when I was pregnant with Violet. I was actually worried I would not love her as much as I loved my firstborn, Chloe. As I’m an only child, this was totally new territory. I could not imagine having that much more love to give to another person, plus Chloe was pretty crazy awesome. Then Violet came and so did the love. I am shocked at how much I can love two little girls in such unique and special ways. Sometimes I think we don’t know what we are capable of until we are asked to do it. I have other friends who just do not feel called to have children or they are unable to adopt. Again, you have to know yourself and follow the path God has for your life. I applaud my friends’ honesty and introspection.


So, how do you participate in God’s call to help orphans if you are not planning on adopting one? Let me count the ways… Some are very hands-on, while others have minimal or no face-to-face interaction. Let’s start with the easy stuff!


Celebrate and Promote World Adoption Day. This is about as easy as it gets. All you need is a hand, a Sharpie, a phone and some sort of social media. It’s simple. World Adoption Day is November 9th this year, draw a smiley face on your hand and take a photo of your hand. Post the picture to social media using the hashtag #WorldAdoptionDay! This is one of my favorites. I carry a Sharpie around every year and put smiley faces on people’s hands on the designated day. Then I ask them to post a photo of their hand on social media. If they are my friends I ask them to tag me--I love seeing their support and it’s just encouraging as an adoptive parent!


Pray for adoptive families. Pray for peace and patience while they wait for their child. Pray for patience in learning to deal with the new challenges coming their way. Pray for their finances. Pray for their coming children. Pray for their marriage. Pray for their biological children, if they have them. Pray, pray, pray. It is so needed.


Donate to larger organizations that sponsor grants and orphan care.  I have a list here of all the grants we received. In that blog post the links will take you to the websites where you can see how to donate. Grants will cover one third of our adoption costs and this is just a fraction of the grants out there. If people didn’t support those types of organizations this process would be impossible unless you were wealthy. In addition to those organizations listed in my previous blog post are many other organizations dedicated to adoption. Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, Christian Alliance for Orphans, Congressional Coalition on Adoption, Show Hope and Project Orphans are just a few. These groups barely scratch the surface of places to give that assist with grants, adoption or provide orphan care.

Operation Christmas Child 2016
Pack a shoebox. You heard me right! This is one of my favorite things I do with my girls all year! Every year around October and November we collect toiletries, toys, coloring books, and crayons to put in shoeboxes for Operation Christmas Child. I usually even throw in some kitchen utensils like a fork and spoon. Then, I have a packing party playdate with some friends and our kids. We learn about Operation Christmas Child and pack our boxes together. You can even find YouTube videos of children all over the world opening their boxes. It’s fun to watch your kids watch the joy of the children opening those boxes and explaining to them they get to be a part of that experience. Then, I volunteer to take the shoeboxes to a drop-off location. These shoeboxes go all over the world to orphanages and impoverished areas. For some of these children this may be the one gift they get all year. It is a small way to share love with children around the world and if you have children already, teach them compassion and generosity. There are guidelines for how and what to pack in a shoebox. Look here for guidelines and deadlines for turning in these boxes!
Operation Christmas Child 2012

Financially support adoptive families. This process is expensive. If you do not personally know an adoptive family to financially support, find one. In fact, adoptive families who are fundraising and reading this, please post links to your blogs or fundraising websites in the comments below. Look on Pure Charity, Adopttogether, GoFundMe or Reece’s Rainbow. These are just a few of the many sites out there and they all have families in need of assistance. These sites have pictures and personal stories of the families raising support. If you can’t be the hands and feet of Jesus by adopting a child, enable someone else to do so by donating some money. Most sites will even allow you to do this anonymously if you choose. Although as someone who has received financial support from friends and family, it is really nice to be able to say “thank you.”


Sponsor a child. There are many organizations out there like Compassion International, World Vision, Children International and Save the Children. Many adoption agencies offer opportunities for sponsorship. Our agency, All God’s Children, offers sponsorship opportunities. Find and sponsor a child. Sometimes families in other places simply need a helping hand to get on their feet and provide for their most basic needs. We are a wealthy country with many resources. We turn on a spigot and clean water we can drink without becoming sick comes out. Many countries do not have this privilege. Give children the opportunity to stay with their families by helping those families through sponsorship. Sponsoring a child can change the entire direction a family is going by providing the means to have shelter, food and education. This was the first thing Kev and I did as a married couple. Our sponsored child’s name was Jerrick. He was adorable and lived in the Philippines. We sponsored him for almost 10 years. We only stopped our sponsorship because his family moved away and the organization was unable to locate them. Soon after that, we started the adoption process, so we decided to wait to sponsor a child until our adoption was complete.


Host a child. There are many adoption agencies out there that have host programs. You can bring a child to come live with you for a couple of weeks so they can experience being a part of a family. It’s an opportunity for you to give to a child a life changing experience and maybe even see if adoption is for you! Children of All Nations, New Horizons for Children, Orphan Hosting, Kidsave, Nightlight Christian Adoptions, MLJ Adoptions and other agencies are out there. We had some friends recently adopt children they hosted. Just look around and keep an open heart and mind to what God might have for you!


These are a few of the ways you can get involved. It’s as easy as drawing on your hand to having a child stay in your home for a few weeks. Everyone is equipped to serve differently. We all have different roles in this process.

Find your place and jump in!!

Comments

Taylor Irby said…
Irby family adopting from Bulgaria! Dossier almost complete and waiting for our child:
www.purecharity.com/irbyadoption
I'm adopting a waiting 4 yr old little girl. She weighs less then most one yr olds. Tax deductible donations can be made on the link below. Thank you. I truly appreciate every cent!
http://reecesrainbow.org/116900/sponsormcauliffe
adamsro65 said…
I am adopting a special needs 3 year old little girl from Eastern Europe. She is a sweetie but has multiple medical needs. She has a rare genetic eye defect (unsure if there is vision in left eye), club feet (now corrected), microcephaly, developmental delays and she is quite small. I have made the first trip to visit with her and I am waiting for my court date. There are still two fees left to complete this adoption process and I would be ever so grateful for any assistance in helping to get her home.
http://reecesrainbow.org/116595/sponsoradams-2
Kristin Bravard said…
We are on our third adoption journey. After two domestic (US private adoptions), we are now adopting two teenagers from Bulgaria who have spent pretty much the entirety of their lives in an orphanage and have no memories of their birth family. Like most adoptive families, we have had to make many personal sacrifices and leave careers, etc in order to tend to the special needs and care that our children tend to require. We are happy to do so, but it can make the funding of future adopions more challenging! Please check out our story at either www.thebravards.com or you can give directly at https://www.youcaring.com/benkristinbravard-760119. Thanks for considering being a part of our journey and helping to provide forever families for the lost and forgotten! Working together, we can make a difference in the lives of many children, one at a time!
Lee-Ann Cotner said…
I love this <3 We are currently completing our second international adoption. We adopted our son from Eastern Europe last year. He is rocking his Down syndrome and very medically complex (laryngeal cleft, heart defects, etc) and yet he is THRIVING! Our son has been such a blessing and such an inspiration that it light the fire to adopt again.We are adopting another little boy from a different Eastern Europe country and he is also rocking his Down syndrome. We had our first trip last month and it was amazing & bittersweet as our son needs to be out NOW and with our family! We are a one income, military family and doing back to back international adoptions may not have been the best financial decision but , we can't imagine NOT saying yes. We are working hard to raise the remaining funds to Bring our son home! You can read more about our family at this link http://reecesrainbow.org/116518/sponsorcotner and if you felt led to. help us bring him home you can make a donation there or to our youcaring link. Thank you for taking the time to read our adoption journey and help make a difference in the life of an orphan! https://www.youcaring.com/williamandleeanncotner-744726
Katrina Kelly said…
https://www.youcaring.com/katrinaandrusselkelly-898839
Katrina Kelly said…
While most people avoid disability, we were specifically seeking it out. We knew that there would be many wonderful children available for adoption who had not been given a second look. We found the profile for a little boy named “Ari.” He had a heart of gold and the cutest dimples. As we looked further through the profile we discovered that he had spinal muscular atrophy, the same conditions Katrina has. It seemed that the fates had aligned. We knew that we could handle his challenges because we had done it before, and Katrina would be an amazing source of wisdom for him growing up with SMA. We really felt we could be the best parents for him. “Ari” has been waiting for a forever family for four years. We appreciate any help that we can get to bring our little boy home. https://www.youcaring.com/katrinaandrusselkelly-898839
Sam said…
This is fantastic! Seriously!

You can find out more about us on social media or through my blog or shop website (Nonfictionfaiyrtale.com and fictivefair.com BUT ....

We are adopting "Roxy" aka Aria. She is 3 and has Down Syndrome. We are working o know funding travel! We are planning an auction and I have my shop website/Etsy selling stuff to fund this! We can take tax deductible donations on RR! :)

http://reecesrainbow.org/107690/sponsorsiebold

Thanks for the chance to share. I think I'll duplicate this sort of post on my blog too! :)
Kailee Bowen said…
Two of our friends, both single moms are adopting, each for the second time. Here are their stories:

https://www.gofundme.com/heisworthy5

https://www.youcaring.com/tirzahwilhelmsadoptioncostsfromindia-692351
em said…
My friend is currently in Bulgaria for her first trip to meet her little girl! She has a skin disease and needs medical attention offered here in the states. Praying God brings her home quickly! Feel free to donate here! https://www.paypal.me/KarrieCannell
kellyh said…
Thanks so much for the chance to share!! We are adopting domestically with a wonderful agency that does an unbelievable job loving and supporting mothers through their situations before and after birth. Praying for protection and guidance for these local mamas and babies during this time of uncertainty in their lives. You can read more about us here. https://www.purecharity.com/hibbard-family-adoption
berea.padilla said…
Hello there! Fundraising to bring our kiddo home from Bulgaria! Here is our T-shirt fundraiser! Thank you so much!!!!

http://www.heartforbulgaria.bigcartel.com/
Anonymous said…
https://www.youcaring.com/seansadoptivefamily-848148